When the fight with your mom keeps replaying
Mother/family fights have a way of living in your body for years. Akiind is a place to unpack what's actually under the argument, and what to do next.
Family fights are rarely about what they're about. The argument about Sunday dinner is usually about feeling unseen, or controlled, or unloved for who you actually are. Akiind can help you unpack the actual thing under the argument — the older thing, often — and figure out what (if anything) you want to do about it.
Signs this might be you
- You had a fight with your mom three days ago and you're still rehearsing what you should have said
- You feel guilty for being angry at her and angry at yourself for feeling guilty
- You keep trying to have the same conversation with her and it never goes anywhere new
- You're not sure if it's her, you, or just the relationship
Try a prompt
Open akiind and start with one of these. Or replace the specifics with your own.
- "I had a fight with my mom and I can't stop thinking about it."
- "I love my mom and I'm furious at her and I don't know what to do with both."
- "I keep having the same argument with her and I don't know how to break the loop."
What akiind is good at here
Mother/family fights have a way of living in your body for years. Akiind is a place to unpack what's actually under the argument, and what to do next.
What akiind won't do
akiind won't diagnose, won't prescribe, and won't tell you what to do. It will help you think out loud. For crisis moments or clinical concerns, please use a licensed professional — see our medical disclaimer.
Common questions
Will akiind take my side?
It will mostly take your side, gently. It will also reflect back the patterns it sees, ask the questions you might be avoiding, and not pretend that the relationship is simple.